I had a casual, non-monogamous, relationship with her that spanned a total of 8 hours in person (3 different events) over a year, as well as only 20 text exchanges before her personality disorder became apparent. Once contact was cut off, she resorted to harassing female friends for information and then anonymously pursuing an unsuccessful #KickVic/#metoo inspired campaign on twitter.
Her real identity can be seen on her Instagram. Every few posts will have a hashtag of my name in association with narcissism/abuser. If you go back to 2019 and read forward you will see she expounds about an intense, abusive (seemingly in-person) 3 year relationship with me (an impossibility easily disputed) and how I controlled her behavior daily through my “abusive narcissism.”
Her anonymous twitter accounts change and have included @LesBean94, @BewareCreepyVAs and @BewareCreepyMen. Occasionally her tweets get megaphoned by a few other anonymous accounts that have their own questionable agendas (as demonstrated by this entire blog post).
Please DO NOT engage with her.
If you wish to share this information with those she’s conversing with, respond to only those people with this link.
A few conventions who booked me investigated her anonymous allegations (and were offered access to archived personal correspondence I have) and deemed them to be wholly without merit. One of the cons is run by a municipality and had to receive clearance from their legal department before booking me – which they did.
Referral info for these third parties is available to other conventions upon request through my reps. I also recommend scrolling to the “critical thinking” breakout box in the original post this is from.
In September, 2021, she attempted to stir up controversy again on twitter. I posted the attempt on Facebook. Over 100 comments in support or in testimony to my behavior at previous conventions: Facebook Post.
The original blog post this was pulled from has publicly available supporting evidence/additional information (albeit, with subjective commentary and fractured by past updates).
“… Truth will out…” – Shakespeare
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Here’s one of the screenshots she posts. Her context? “DC is sending random underage women messages on IG!”
In reality, it’s a message I sent to her after she and I agreed to meet later with her friends at a bar. She and I had already flirted earlier that year at another con and at a restaurant afterwards where she was drinking a hard cider. This message was me realizing she wasn’t yet 21. She was 20. This is the level of integrity she’s operating at. (By the way, if you have a moral issue with 18+ consenting men/women/non-binary humans flirting or more across a large age gap – I address your concerns with as much sensitivity and nuance as possible here.)
Thankfully, most folks who dig into her DMs, posts and words can see how she uses conflation to manipulate.
Side note: I, like many VAs, have several stalkers. Most harmless. Some very strange and persistent. None I’ve ever met nor felt the need to out like this. This person I thought was a normal, non-fan. Hoo-boy…
When she publicly tweeted to someone I respect in the con community from one of her sock puppet accounts, though, I had to respond (against my better judgement):
At this point, what am I going to do?
Post all her bizarre personal texts/letters to me?
All options just give her distortion campaign oxygen and a limelight, as well as turn my personal life into a circus for strangers on twitter to “judge.” No thanks. The twitterverse isn’t the best at parsing nuance given, um, oh, I don’t know, everything I just listed above! Lol!
So, this blog post is my response. She gets nothing more, nor do any of the VicStans/KiwiFarms kids who decide to distort/exploit and run with it. Hopefully she gets the mental health help she needs one day soon.
Another voice actor (who is beloved and genuine) had accusations leveled against him last week. But a cursory reading of his accusers bizarre 95 page account (plus her 3 hour “reading” of said writings in a video – seemingly to highlight her own voice over chops – yes, bizarre) revealed her obvious delusions. And one of the convention staff mentioned in it took her to task on twitter, breaking down all her lies – complete with other witnesses chiming in, too.
That’s where my stalker jumped in and added her own bizarre accusations against this staffer. You can’t make this shit up. The other stalker quote tweeted it as “proof.”
Let’s pause here.
The beauty of this is that my stalker has now gone on record lying about another person and the internal workings of my favorite convention (who keep records). Now I will always be able to point my future cons to this mess to expose her sociopathy.
Including some of the aftermath below.
Critical Thinking User Guide:
#BelieveWomen was meant to upend the history of a patriarchy that silenced victims. It was not intended to silence respectful and legitimate inquiry nor halt all application of facts and reason. It was to shield those coming forward from societal knee-jerk attacks. It is possible to hold space for people with true grievances to come forward while also withholding judgement of the person accused. (See end of the blog post). Notice “all” is not part of the hashtag. Why? Because, as Jon Oliver said, if it did we’d have to buy into Rachel Dolezal’s idiocy.
#MeToo is a justice movement – a way for victims of assault to be heard, have support, and to hold the perpetrator accountable. Women stood up and told their stories. They put themselves out there (their identities) and counted on others to not immediately dismiss their experiences anymore.
In many cases (such as Cosby, Weinstein, etc), the courts were able to see the evidence, hear directly from the victims and pass judgement. In others (like Vic Mignogna), the companies that hired him were able to look at the evidence, speak to those who had come forward and pass judgement. This is an important distinction.
Rumors spread by anonymous people from social media accounts are not being brave, nor are they accountable to the truth. If you want to ruin someone’s reputation, you do it through a “whisper campaign.”
If you can persuade other, well-meaning people that you (an anonymous person online) are speaking on behalf of “other anonymous victims,” then you have yourself the makings of a whisper campaign. Possibly ruining a person’s reputation without that person ever being able to respond to the “victim(s)” making the allegations.
- While I know exactly who this person is (including IP address and a large file of texts, etc) they have not come forward under their real name.
- While they are well “spoken” in their posts, they have not produced any incontrovertible evidence.
- The majority of their accusations are moral in nature (50 year old man hangs with 25 year old women, drinking, porn.)
- Other accusations are piled-on to the extreme (groper, pedophile, rapist – not adding serial killer was a missed opportunity).
- They dismiss and block any person who has actually known me for years in the convention community.
- No one else (non-anonymously) has joined their campaign with their own personal horror stories. This post of hers from October 2019 implies several victims are about to come forward… 2019. None have. You getting the picture?
- And, most telling, no conventions – who are very sensitive to this kind of controversy after the Vic stuff – have bothered to give these anonymous accounts any credence. In fact, as you saw above, a DragonCon ex-convention employee shut it down unequivocally (and with style, I might add).
So, if you’re here because you were duped by her smear campaign, go back and really read everything again. Go to the source, not the accounts blindly megaphoning her. Ask yourself “Who is this person? Where is the hard evidence? Why is their twitter account only about D.C. Douglas?” In short, please use some critical thinking when parsing it all. Thanks.
Keep in mind I have only been in her presence FOUR times over an 18 month period. The first 3 times were voluntary and added up to about 8 hours total at most (conventions, socializing). The last time I told her I needed my liaison with me at all times (because she had gone nuts in text at that point – which I have saved).
[Blog and name removed to protect them from being harassed.]
Twitter and Instagram
We know they are the same because we got her twitter account to click a honeypot link. The IP was in her hometown in Wisconsin.
Her twitter is her alter-ego that pretends to be a righteous activist in the con community (yet only posts about me) and is enabled by some kid in Canada who cosplays as a Resident Evil character and is, apparently, duped rather easily or has her own psychological agenda. The IG account is real identity. Once a month she posts something about narcissism/abusers and then hashtags them with my name, etc. Still. 4 years later. Again – we spent no more than 8 hours together in a 2 year period. And the last 2 hours was at the con where I wouldn’t be alone in a room with her. Read her posts. Engage critical thinking. Come to your own conclusion.
If you’re here because of the lady trying to get more attention about Q Flynn, I have no idea who she is but, regardless of my past associations with Q (whether positive or negative), I have no intention of joining her bonfire. Also, anyone amplifying my stalker dilemma to get my attention or win support is undermining themselves. (As for “liked” tweets, etc… Come the fuck on, people! 😂 Can two things be true simultaneously? Could there be multiple reasons for it? Also… You’re literally wasting hours of your life parsing a fucking “liked tweet.”)
I now use my (erroneously suspended) account to look up quickly unfolding events in politics. I’m appreciating the zen task of taking in the info and the reactions without the ability to “be heard.” It’s irrelevant in the grand scheme of life and happiness. Twitter is a cesspool of conflation, idiocy, agendas and binary logic. It’s intellectual toddlers with way too much time on their hands. A game of telephone played with insecurities and egos.